Fear Of Infinity

  Do you sometimes feel like nothing you do is good enough? Do you feel like there is always something to improve? Something new to learn or a new skill to acquire? Do you have a love/hate relationship towards inspirational posts from people about their achievements? Are you overwhelmed with the endless possibilities of our modern life? I definitely have to admit that all these things have plagues me for a long time and I have my moments where all these thoughts come racing back and clutter my mind. I then lose track of what is humanly possible and set myself up for disappointment. Plus, the goals that I am chasing in these moments often aren't even things I would really like to spend so much time on. Overworking leads to feeling numb and paralysed and not even feeling interested in pursuing the things I actually enjoy. Here are the three things I do to tackle self-doubt and the perfectionism seeking part in me:  1. Gratitude journal  As it was mentioned already on the bl...

 We have all been in situations where the person we are talking is created a very intense emotional reaction inside us. In general, the way you might deal with it would be to get angry or sad, and eventually express these emotions by yelling, or saying things you do not mean. Great, that's called reacting. In order words, your emotional reaction, together with you twisted perception of the reality, took over control and decided for you what was the best behaviour to adopt. And there are several problems with this approach.  The first one is the one we actually already mentioned. You might do and say things you don't mean. And this can lead to an escalade of violence. That's the very basic reaction circle between two persons arguing. Person A says something, thinking that it's ok. Person B gets upset, and react by saying something upsetting. Person A is now upset and tries to upset Person B, who is already upset. So Person B might start to be violent, verbally, physicall...

One could say that there are two realities. The one that is, and the one we perceive. Of course, there is only one that really counts, and it's the one we perceive. The problem is that this reality can be distorted by our own thoughts. Let me explain. If you start your day in a negative mindset, we will focus on all the bad events that happen around you, and minimise the good ones. But the opposite is also true. If you start your day with a very positive mindset, chances are that you are not even gonna see negative events. Or at least, you won't get affected by them. But someone suffering from anxiety or depression is programmed to dismiss all the good things going on, and ruminate any bad moment or thing that can happen. But your brain can be re-programmed. It just takes practice.  As a pessimistic person, you will tend to perceive a negative event as your responsibility and as permanent. Something you can't change, although it's your fault. At the same time, you will ...

  Sleeping is essential. And your day is highly affected by the night you just had. Chances are that if you are sleep depraved, or if your sleep quality is very low, you will not be able to enjoy your day as much as you should. We discussed previously the fact that the colour of your day is basically defined by your morning. But the very first step of a morning routine is actually a good night of sleep. And a good night of sleep depends on your evening. Building an evening routine is not easy, in a sense that each one of us functions differently. The goal here is to find a routine that fits you. A routine that you can stick to (otherwise it is not really a routine, is it?). Let me give you five tips that I consider essential to any evening routine. Once again, this is based on me personal experience.  Tip number 1: you need to find your sleep time This is the starting point of your routine building. Everything you will include in your routine will be based on this time. To fin...

  When facing a rough period of our life, we tend to believe that we are alone in this situation. This is highly connected with the previous article I have posted about being broken. “What is wrong with me?” When you ask yourself this question, you automatically isolate yourself from the rest of the people because you assume that there is a problem with you, and you only. However, you are not alone. And it is time for you to open your eyes, and see it.   There are of course several levels, depending on how aware you are at the moment. Some of you might not be aware at all that they might be suffering from depression, anxiety, or any other mental illness. Some of you might know that they are suffering from something, but not what is the reason of the suffering. Or maybe some of you are - as I am - on the path of recovery. And every stage has its own way to isolate you from the rest of the world.  The first real issue comes from our society, but this is (hopefully) slowly...

 This is a concept coming back from the Roman antiquity. Phrased otherwise, "Memento mori". Remember that you will die. I apologise for the very light mood. But this is a very interesting approach to awareness and life in general. The idea is fairly simple, and was used a lot by the Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius: when you wake up in the morning and think about what you are gonna do during the day, you need to ask yourself one question.  "What if this my last day on Earth?" Then you might say "Oh picturing my death within the next 24h, what a great way to start my day!". But it can truly help. And for the sake of this article, I will try to give two reasons that appear to be the most obvious to me.  The first one is the fear of death. Most of us fear death, more or less. What is it that is frightening about death? I believe that there are mostly two points. The first one is the "what". What happens once we die? Science tells us "nothing"...