Quit talking shit about yourself

 

Ok guys, that's gonna be a quick one. Cause the message here is simple: quit talking shit about yourself. I do it a lot, you do it, we all do. And this is a terrible habit. Now, you might tell me "Oh no but come on, I don't do it." Do you happen to be in this situation where you are basically trying to complete a task, something is not working as it should and you realise you made a mistake. In general, the reaction is "Oh my God I'm..." 

How did you fill the end of this sentence? Stupid? A piece of shit? An idiot?

Well, that's talking shit about yourself. This example might sound silly, but the truth is that we are in this kind of situations all the time, and if you accumulate the number of times you actually called yourself stupid, it is a lot. So much that you actually start to believe it. But that's bullshit. You are not stupid. You made a mistake. At most, you could say "Oh my God, I'm... human".

Self shit talking is deeply connected to our core beliefs. Those are beliefs we have about ourselves that are deeply engraved in our minds, our bodies. They were formed, for the most of them, during our childhood, when we were little sponges, accepting anything as being the truth. We will come back to that in a later article. But at the moment, what is important to understand is that when you talk shit about yourself, you feed your core beliefs, making them stronger, more persistant. 

Of course, one has to be aware (hey, awareness again) of their own core beliefs. But already, noticing when you talk shit about yourself is a very good first step. Every time you catch yourself being mean with yourself ("I'm stupid", "I'm ugly", "OMG, no wonder why you are alone", "You're the worst", etc...), notice it, and turn the sentence around. "No, I'm not stupid, I made a mistake". "No I don't deserve to be alone, I'm a good person". 

You might think that this sound shallow and a bit silly. Yeah I use to think the same. But it's really not. I wrote this article now, before digging into the concept of core beliefs because I notice people (and myself) talking shit about themselves ALL THE TIME. It's incredible. 

So quit talking shit about yourself. You're worth for God sake. Be kind to yourself.